Woman Catches Husband Texting His Coworker During Their Date Night

A woman took to Reddit to ask if she was “overreacting” about her husband’s close relationship with a coworker.

The woman shared that her 34-year-old husband started a new job a few months ago and quickly became close with one of his coworkers. While the woman says she’s not a jealous person, she feels different about this particular friendship.

The woman shares that her husband and his coworker text all the time, and he seems distracted since he is always on his phone — even during their date nights.

While they were out one night, she saw him sending memes and sharing inside jokes. When she asked about it, he said, “It’s a work thing, you wouldn’t get it.” Her husband even has a nickname for his coworker, which the poster notes is uncommon for him to do.

“I tried bringing it up gently, saying it made me feel a little left out and weird, and he got defensive fast, said I was being controlling, jealous, and insecure, and that, ‘not everything has to be a threat,’ ” the woman writes. 

She noted that she previously met the coworker in question, describing her as “polite but distant” and “like she couldn’t care less about me or who I was to him.” Since then, the woman said it feels like she has been “pushed further to the side.”

“He talks more about her than any of his other friends or coworkers, and honestly? I’m starting to feel like a third wheel in my own relationship,” the woman shares.

“I haven’t accused him of cheating or anything dramatic; I don’t even think anything physical is happening, but the emotional closeness just seems inappropriate. Or maybe it’s not. I don’t know. That’s why I’m here,” the woman confesses to the Reddit community. 

People in the comments of the post told the woman that even if it wasn’t a physical affair, it’s clear that the man’s relationship with his coworker goes beyond the workplace.

“Sounds like it’s more than a friendship. His defensiveness and insulting you and dismissing your feelings, in my opinion means he’s emotionally attached to her, especially with the nickname. Have you read their messages by chance? What other red flags have you noticed?” one person inquired. 

“I would be really hurt by this. To me, this is an emotional affair,” another person wrote.