Taylor Swift’s Song ‘Ruin the Friendship’ Is Not About Blake Lively

Taylor Swift’s new album sets the record straight on one fan theory.

The pop superstar dropped her 12th album, The Life of a Showgirl, on Friday, Oct. 3. After she teased the track list in August, fans theorized on social media — based solely on the song title — that “Ruin the Friendship” would be about her strained bond with Blake Lively. (At the time in August, a source told PEOPLE that the longtime friends “aren’t speaking” amid the actress’s ongoing lawsuit with It Ends with Us costar Justin Baldoni.)

Instead, the song explores the subjects of unrequited love and regret while telling the story of a high school crush with a tragic ending.

“When I left school I lost track of you / Abigail called me with the bad news / Goodbye / And we’ll never know why,” Swift, 35, sings on the heart-wrenching song. “It was not an invitation / But I flew home anyway / With so much left to say / It was not convenient, no / But I whispered at the grave / ‘Should’ve kissed you anyway’ … My advice is always ruin the friendship / Better that than regret it / For all time.”

Swift hasn’t commented on the inspiration for the song, but there are parallels that point to her childhood friend Jeffrey Lang, who died at age 21 on Nov. 2, 2010. The pair attended Hendersonville High School together in Hendersonville, Tenn., before she left school to pursue her music career. Swift honored Lang days later at the BMI County Awards in Nashville on Nov. 10 of that year.

“Yesterday I sang at the funeral of one of my best friends, and he was 21, and I used to play my songs for him first,” Swift said onstage at the time. “So I would like to thank Jeff Lang.”

“Ruin the Friendship” is one of the more emotional tracks on The Life of a Showgirl, which Swift has said was inspired by her life behind the scenes of her record-smashing Eras Tour. 

The album also alludes to her relationship with Kansas City Chiefs tight end Travis Kelce, also 35, who proposed in August after nearly two years of dating.

Swift announced that The Official Release Party of a Showgirl — a theatrical release of her music video for “The Fate of Ophelia,” the rest of the album’s lyric videos and behind-the-scenes footage— will be screening in cinemas Oct. 3 – 5 as part of the launch of The Life of a Showgirl.