Woman’s Boyfriend Expects Her to Pay for His Adult Children’s Meals
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- A Reddit user wondered if she has to pay for her boyfriend’s adult children that he invited to the birthday party she’s throwing him
- She asked other users if she could pay for herself, her boyfriend and the child they share
- Other Redditors agreed that the poster was in the right and that the boyfriend should pay for who he invites
When a woman’s dinner plan multiplied exponentially, she was left wondering where she could draw the financial line.
The original poster, or OP, asked for advice about the birthday dilemma in her Oct. 1 post on “Am I The A——?” Reddit forum.
The user wrote that she, 53, told her 56-year-old boyfriend that she wanted to take him out for a birthday dinner. They share a child and each has adult children from previous relationships. The boyfriend invited his children and their partners to the birthday dinner, meaning there would be “6 total extra grown adults,” the Redditor wrote.
The boyfriend expects her to pay the bill, the post explained, but she asked if it would be wrong for her to only pay for herself, her boyfriend and their child, who is a minor.
Her reasoning comes from a financial standpoint. “I make 1/2 the money he does and we spilt bills 50/50 as we live together and have a kid together,” she wrote. “I would likely be 1/2 my paycheck?”
The comments were almost unanimously on the OP’s side with many Reddit users agreeing that she should not feel obligated to pay for his grown children. “It is never required to pay for another adult,” one person commented.
Several users wrote that because the boyfriend invited his children it is his responsibility to pay for their meal, “OP invited the boyfriend for dinner. Boyfriend decided to invite the entire clown car. Paying for them is 100% on him” said one. Another person agreed, adding, “If it was your idea to invite them, maybe different. But he added people to your treat. He should be covering that, not handing you the bill.”
Others took issue with the couple’s general economic situation, writing that they shouldn’t be splitting their bills equally when she makes significantly less than he does, with one person writing, “You earn half of what he does but you split the bills 50-50. You are already on the losing side of this equation. Why on earth would you pay for meals for his 6 grown relatives?”
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