Man is Getting Married to Woman Just Months After His Wife of 38 Years Died. Now His Son Is Refusing to Attend the Nuptials

A man is considering declining an invitation to his dad’s wedding — just seven months after his mom’s death.

In a post shared to Reddit’s “Am I The A——?” board, a 20-year-old college student opened up about losing his mom in February, noting that she and his dad were married for 38 years.

“Me and my siblings had a really close relationship with her, she was our best friend, the glue that kept the family together,” the Redditor writes of his mom. “But maybe only a month after her funeral, my father was already starting to go on dates again. Me and my siblings thought it was weird at first, but we didn’t think anything of it.”

“Continuing on down the line, he reconnected with a woman that he knew years ago, from when he was in his teenage years, and seemingly she saw the video of my mom’s funeral online and texted my dad on Facebook, wanting to check in with him and see if he’s alright.”

According to the Redditor, just a few weeks later, his dad sat him down, along with his brother and sister-in-law, to tell them that he was seeing someone new.

“Well, a couple months later after that point, I started seeing my dad less and less each weekend, until he just has the routine of always leaving Friday and not coming back until Monday,” he shared, adding that “the more he went, the [closer they got].”

The social media user shared that it wasn’t long before his dad was engaged — and the pair even began building a house states away, which the Redditor shared he will eventually move into with his father and new wife, as he’s still a student looking to save money.

“At this point, neither me or my siblings agreed with the fact that he was doing this as we felt it was weird,” he continued. “My brother even cutting off contact with him for a bit because of it.”

“We’ve explicitly told him we don’t want to see her, or have anything to do with this new woman in his life,” the post states. “But as stubborn as he is, he keeps bringing her around after we tell him no.”

The Redditor shared that his dad’s wedding is set for December near the newly-built house — just 10 months after his mom’s death.

“[Am I the a——?] for not wanting to go to this wedding?”

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The r/AITA community was quick to come to the 20-year-old’s defense, saying that he had a right to be upset.

“You’re [not the a——]. You’re not required to go,” one commenter wrote. “These stories make me shake my head… getting remarried 10 months after a spouse of 38 years passes is certainly one way to move on.”

Other commenters argued that his dad had a right to get married following the death of a spouse, despite how his kids might feel about it.

“I’m having a hard time calling anyone an a——,” another reply stated. “It’s okay for you to feel weird about your dad remarrying, but he’s allowed to move his life forward at his own pace.”

“Not every widow(er) has an easy time being alone; sometimes they want to move on because they want a companion. How he deals with losing his wife isn’t right or wrong, it just is,” the reply continued, stating that it can sometimes be hard to loose a spouse after being married for decades. “I know people who moved on faster the longer they were married because they struggled with loneliness after having someone as a partner for so long. If your dad’s fiancee makes your dad happy and he’s not feeling so lonely, just let him be happy.”

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Commenters also urged the poster to consider the impact that declining the wedding invitation would have on him living with his dad and soon-to-be step-mom.

“I don’t think you can say you want nothing to do with her and still expect to move into their new house,” a reply states. “Either move in and accept her and stop commenting, or don’t move in. You’re also not required to attend their wedding if you’re uncomfortable, but it’s another thing that could affect whether you live in their house.”

“You and your siblings are still grieving and [your dad] is asking you to set your feelings aside and come to his wedding,” another reply noted. “He is allowed to move on and get married, but he should also consider your feelings and accept that you aren’t ready to move on yet.”