Woman Ignoring Friends with Benefits After His Embarrassing Comment

A woman says she is currently ignoring her longtime friend with benefits following a hurtful comment he made to her after they had sex.

The woman detailed her story on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on Mumsnet.com, a place where women can go to seek advice about personal dilemmas. In her post, she said that she has a male friend and that they are “quite close.”

“We’ve been having sex on and off for a decade now,” she shared.

“In that time, I have put on weight. 44 lbs. to be precise,” she continued, adding that the friend knows she’s “unhappy” with her current weight, and that she’s trying her “hardest” to lose it.

Meanwhile, she says that the friend “has lost weight” over the time they’ve known each other, “and is probably in the best shape of his life.”

The original poster (OP) went on to say that she and the friend were recently discussing the last time they slept together, and he said something to the effect of, “There was a point where I held on to your stomach and I thought, ‘Oh s—, that’s big.’ ”

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The OP said that she “[hung] up almost immediately” and hasn’t “spoken to him since” — despite the fact that he called her “about 20 times” that day.

“I feel very hurt, and I think what makes it worse is that I can’t speak to anyone I know about it because it’s so embarrassing,” she continued, adding, “Strangely, it’s made me feel very isolated and upset.”

“This doesn’t mean I won’t ever speak to him again, but I’m just processing my feelings and want to know what others think,” she said at the end of her post.

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The vast majority of commenters told the woman that she should stop spending time with the man.

“He’s not your friend,” one person said. “Friends don’t think that, let alone say it. He’s some guy who knows he can get sex from you.” Another person said, “I wouldn’t ever speak to him again. I CERTAINLY wouldn’t have sex with him again. He’s an a——.”

Someone else, however, said that they thought the OP should potentially give the guy another chance — at least as a friend.

“You’ve been friends with this man for a decade, and he f—– up and put his foot in his mouth; he knows and tried to reach out to fix it,” they wrote. .”You have every right to be upset, and you probably don’t want to have sex with him again […]. But I would still meet and talk about it […]. Friends are hard to find, and people f— up. That’s called being human.”