Mom Doesn’t Know If She Should Let Her Daughter Quit Her Dance Team

A mom doesn’t know if she should let her daughter quit her dance team.

The original poster (OP) shared her story on Reddit and explained that her daughter tried out for the cheer team at her school but didn’t make it. She instead auditioned for the dance team, which didn’t have many people try out. She got on the team, which is now made up of six girls.

However, OP said that the team is very unorganized. OP’s daughter has raised a lot of money for the program, and OP herself said she’s donated $300, but they’ve only received a T-shirt. They are now halfway through the season, and the girls don’t have any part of their uniforms.

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“She has no uniform ordered, no shoes, tight, bag, nothing we were promised and no tentative arrival either,” said OP. “It’s so frustrating. The coach has been approached as well as the school on this and there is still no definite answers on when the girls’ things will arrive.”

OP said her daughter is getting frustrated and has been trying to push through, but things are a mess. Cheer tryouts are happening again this week, and OP knows that the program is run better.

“It’s what she wanted to do originally and desperately wants to give it another shot,” OP said of cheer. “I understand her wanting to quit. Should I advise against this and have her finish the season and try cheer next year?”

In her comments, many said that OP should just let her daughter join the cheer team.

“Honestly let her join cheer. I feel like you answered your own question when you said her reasoning is valid,” one person wrote. “She sounds like a motivated person with a good sense of what serves her and what doesn’t.”

Another said that it sounds like the program is taking a lot of money and not delivering on key parts of the team.

“Personally I would let her quit. It sounds like she’s being taken advantage of. She raised 4 THOUSAND dollars for the program AND paid $300 out of pocket and they don’t even have uniforms?? What kind of clown show is this?” asks another commenter.

“Letting her quit is a lesson in going where her work is valued, forcing her to stay is sunk cost fallacy. She’s not going to turn the program around single handed, and she shouldn’t have to. Let her do cheer.”

A third person said that knowing when to quit is just as important of a skill as sticking it out.

“Honestly, and I know it goes against what a lot of people say, but knowing when to leave or when to quit is actually a really great skill,” they wrote. “Pushing through things that are not for us is often actually not the best.”

“But in this case, it seems very clear that it’s a very reasonable decision, and it also shows that you’re listening to her and also it solidifies that trying something new doesn’t mean that you need to stick with it forever. I think those are all great lessons!”