Woman Says Mother-in-Law is Trying to ‘Out-Gift’ Her

A woman says her own mother-in-law is on a mission to “out-gift” her when buying presents for her daughter.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous woman writes that her daughter’s birthday is coming up — and she’s already worried that her husband’s mom is going to go all out in an effort to top her own gift.

From the post: “Before she was born she already received two gifts on separate occasions from my mother-in-law: her first gold bracelet and her first diamond earrings. My mother-in-law can’t truly afford these things but she always has to be the first with everything and outdo me in every way and act innocent about it.”

The woman adds that her mother-in-law was even the one to announce she and her husband were having a baby — telling guests at a family party hosted at her house.

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“I wasn’t there,” the poster adds. “But she made it a huge event where she gifted someone a fancy gift for guessing right that I was pregnant. She’s taken so many of these first time opportunities from me.”

The post continues: “I see a recurring trend with her wanting to make sure she gifts my daughter jewelry — even if we make a registry of things we want, she will most likely do what she wants as she’s done before.”

For her daughter’s upcoming first birthday, she planned to buy a nice piece of jewelry — but she’s worried her mother-in-law might beat her to it.

“Every year I would like to be the one to gift her these nice pieces of jewelry to give her when she’s older,” she writes. “I don’t want to have to dig through a jewelry box of half stuff from my mother-in-law, half stuff from me and she ends up liking my mother-in-law’s stuff more.”

She continues: “I know it’s a lot to gift but this is my first and most likely only child and I want to be the one to give her these sentimental gifts (my husband and I haven’t been doing good because his mom keeps overstepping boundaries with our child).”

“How do I make sure she doesn’t gift gold and diamond fancy jewelry to her anymore?” she writes in ending the post.

Other Reddit users are advising the poster get creative. Writes one, “I’d make sure your daughter always receives your gift first and if your mother-in-law chooses to give jewelry, then just say thanks and I’d probably sell it and deposit the money into an account for your daughter.”

Adds another commenter: “You can’t control what MIL gives to baby. But you can put every single piece MIL gives to her away in a separate jewelry box at the top of the closet. You are keeping it safe for baby for when she’s old enough to appreciate and wear them. You control what baby actually wears and gets to interact with.”