Bridesmaid ‘Humiliated’ After Being Forced to Room with a Couple at Destination Wedding

A single bridesmaid feels “humiliated” because the bride wants her to room with a couple at her upcoming destination wedding.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding Drama” forum, the bridesmaid explained that the bride and groom are renting out a villa for two nights for all of their wedding guests. While the bridesmaid is grateful that her accommodations are being covered, considering she’s already sacrificed “hundreds” on other wedding-related costs plus three days off of work, she’s admittedly upset about her roommate situation.

“As I’m traveling solo (one of the very few guests not in a couple, though I can think of at least two other women), she’s allocated me to share a room with… a couple,” the bridesmaid wrote. “For two nights. These aren’t close friends, just acquaintances.”

The bride acknowledged that the situation is “not ideal,” but said that coordinating the sleeping arrangements was “very tricky,” and that most rooms were fit for three people.

The bridesmaid is “not comfortable with this arrangement,” so she checked if there were any hotels around the rural area, but there are none.

“I just feel awkward and somewhat humiliated at the thought of being a third wheel and honestly just feeling less-than for being single in a couple’s room for two nights,” she said. “It’s not at all what I imagined when agreeing to be her bridesmaid.”

In a comment, the bridesmaid noted that she has not been in contact with the couple she is planned to be roomed with, so she doesn’t know how they feel about the arrangement.

Now, the bridesmaid is wondering if she should “push back” and ask for an alternative arrangement, or just “suck [it] up.”

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Reddit users were sympathetic toward the bridesmaid, and advised her to have a serious conversation with the bride because the arrangement is “completely unacceptable.”

“How could anyone even think that’s okay?” the top comment read in part. “If it were me, I would tell the bride she can either arrange for me to have my own room, or she can replace me as a bridesmaid and a guest.”

Another Redditor wrote, “Being a third wheel is bad enough. Couple that with not really knowing the other occupants, and it makes for a really awkward situation. [The bride] knows that but wants to be cheap where she shouldn’t be. At the very least, she should give you a way to contact them so you can get familiar with each other. I wouldn’t want to sleep with perfect strangers. That makes you vulnerable! I still wouldn’t want to do it and would probably drop out.”