Woman Worries Her ‘Marriage Is Imploding’ After Husband Makes 5-Figure Purchase

A woman is worried that her “marriage is imploding” after her husband disregarded her opinion about a big purchase.

“I have never felt so tense in my life and I am so confused on what to do,” she writes on Reddit, noting that she and her husband, 32, have “been together for 7 years and married for almost 1.”

The poster, 29, explained that a few months ago her husband told her that he wanted to buy an $80,000 sports car. She told him it wasn’t the best time to make such a pricey purchase, as they were “a few months away from starting a family” and she “wanted to save money for that and maybe one day a larger house for our family.”

Initially, he “agreed to put [it] on a back burner,” but quickly changed his mind.

“Then a couple weeks later he said we should take out a line of credit from our mortgage so that if we did need it we would have it; and if we didn’t use it we could just give the money back.. I am sure you know where this is going but he used it to buy the car,” she writes.

“In a couple weeks he is going on a day trip to another province to go see the car and sign the paperwork,” she adds.

The poster asked her husband if she could join him when he went to pick up the car since she “loves a little trip” and thought she could “get a positive experience out of going and spending time with him.”

However, he chose a weekend in which she was working a night shift, which was nearly impossible for her to get off on such short notice.

Instead, the woman’s mother-in-law “swooped right in” and asked to go in her place.

For context, the woman noted that her mother-in-law has a habit of meddling in their marriage.

“In the past my MIL has attempted to break us up and I feel like she wants a front row seat to the demise of our marriage and wants it to fail,” she writes.

Now, the woman wonders if she is being “paranoid” or if she has a “right to be upset” about the situation. However, her husband, who is an only child and doesn’t have a relationship with his dad, insists that everything is fine.

“I am so worried this is the beginning of the end of our marriage. We love each other but it is concerning to me how little he listens to me,” she ends. “In his defence he is otherwise very smart with his/our money and barely spends, so maybe I should jut be ok with this… I need an outside opinion.”

However, people in the comments emphasized that his behavior was a “huge red flag,” telling the poster that the “problem” is not her mother-in-law, but rather her husband.

“This isn’t just a bad move, it’s financial betrayal,” one user wrote. “Blaming the MIL is deflecting from the real issue: he straight-up ignored her, spent a huge chunk of money, and is acting shady. That’s not love or respect that’s a 🚩 waving hard.”

“Taking equity from your house to buy a sports car you didn’t agree to is divorce worthy imo,” a second person added. “Get your personal finances/documents in order and don’t start trying for a baby.”

“You should NOT be okay with this. What a horrifying extravagance on a vanity purchase to please himself,” a third person chimed in. “And Mommy is on board because she wants her baby boy to be happy. You’re the third person in this marriage, unfortunately.”