‘Real Housewives of Miami’ Star Kiki Barth Says She Blocked Guerdy Abraira “Way Before” The Season 7 Reunion: “I Just Saw A Different Side Of Her”

Kiki Barth has been serving full-time energy in a “friend of” role ever since she joined The Real Housewives of Miami in Season 4. With her light-hearted personality and unfiltered commentary, she quickly became a fan favorite on the show. While she’s largely been able to stay neutral in dramatic situations (with the exception of her Season 6 screaming match with Lisa Hochstein), Barth has recently found herself in some drama with Guerdy Abraira, forcing her to block the event planner on social media.

Earlier this month, internet sleuths noticed that Abraira and Barth were no longer following each other on Instagram, prompting Abraira to publicly call out her co-star for blocking her. While this appeared to be a result of the reunion—which could’ve been “a whole season” in and of itself, per Barth—the model revealed to Decider that she blocked Abraira “way before” they sat down with Andy Cohen to hash out Season 7.

According to Barth, she and Abraira didn’t have any beef until Season 7, Episode 3 aired and she started getting backlash from fans for telling Abraira, who had just beaten breast cancer, that the other women felt like she was “extra.”

“I just saw a different side of her,” Barth told us over Zoom. “I think she just saw how the show was edited and she decided to go with the fans and I was like, ‘Wow, OK.’ Sometimes I need a break because I was getting a lot of craziness and I just didn’t want to deal with it at the time.”

Looking back on their conversation, Barth acknowledged that the entire cast is “super extra,” especially herself, and what she actually meant to tell Abraira was that she was “overbearing.”

“I’m extra. Alexia [Nepola’s] extra. Larsa [Pippen’s] extra. Lisa’s extra. Adriana [de Moura]. Julia [Lemigova]. All of us are,” Barth said. “But we all understand that when it’s time for someone to talk, let them say what they have to say. You can give them five seconds, two minutes to listen to them … If you are being called overbearing for not letting people talk—and if everyone is saying it—maybe you are the problem.”

When Decider caught up with Barth, she spoke more about the cast trip to Spain, filming with her family members, and what fans can expect from the Season 7 reunion. Check out the full interview below.

DECIDER: I was so happy to see more of your personal life this season. How did your kids and your parents feel about being in front of cameras?

KIKI BARTH: After three seasons, I’m just happy that [my son] was like, “OK, mom, I’ll do it.” I was like, “Oh, really?” My son is a natural. He’s very much like me. We’re like brother and sister, except when I have to get into mom mode. I’m like, “Stop.” And he’s like, “OK, we can’t joke with her anymore.” But he’s always joking with me. I’m super excited. My daughter, she’s a doll. She doesn’t care. She just wants to run around asking for ice cream. And my dad, as you can see, he’s a crazy one. I’m just happy that I was able to open up and people can relate, and I was able to tell a little bit more of my story this season. 

Fans were impressed when you revealed that you used to date the owner of the Miami Beach Yacht Club, and even though you’re no longer together, you still have access to use it whenever you want. Was that the best perk you’ve ever gotten out of a relationship? If not, what was?

Actually, I’ve always remained friends with most of my exes. Let’s say I broke up with you for whatever reason. I will not talk to you for three, four or five months until I heal myself. And then I’ll probably reach out to you and find closure. Once we find closure, then we can be the best of friends. Half of the time, if they’re married, then I’ll become friends with their wife. I know their kids. Sometimes when you find closure, it’s the best healing that you can find. I mean, your ex-boyfriends are the ones who know you the best. So why not remain friends with them? You don’t have to be my boyfriend. But you can be the best ex, or one of the greatest exes. I’m friends with almost every single one of them. 

That’s a very unique perspective.

You don’t have to be friends with them right away. It takes time to get through the process, to do the healing. Once you do the healing, you find closure. Because if you don’t find closure, that’s what’s going to make you not sleep at night. Once you find closure, it’s like, “I’m in a good place with them now. We did it. I don’t have to ever think bad of them.” Then you start going to dinner with them and their wives. You start meeting their new girlfriends and you become a big, nice group of friends. I don’t find anything wrong with that. 

Let’s get into everything going on this season. There’s been a lot of chatter about Julia throwing the water on Guerdy. We saw you trying to pull Guerdy away from the argument. Guerdy feels like the women should’ve stood up to Julia more at that moment. Looking back, is there anything you would’ve done differently? 

Listen, what Julia did was the most unspeakable thing ever, and we all spoke on it. You guys didn’t get to see everything. Yes, in that moment, I agree with Guerdy. She felt like we all could have done more for her. But also, what I did was exactly what I would want a friend to do for me at that moment—try to diffuse the situation and remove me from it. I think what I did is what I would have done for my kids, for my mom, for anyone that I’m close to. 

We definitely saw you trying to calm everyone down by separating them.

That’s the first reaction. Relax, calm down. Everybody’s shocked. OK, go this way. Go that way. I even called on Alexia. [I said], “Alexia, grab Julia.” I’m soaking wet, too. I’m the first one in the middle. [I said], “Alexia, grab Julia because I cannot grab both of them.” Nobody knew what was going to happen next. Water got thrown, which is horrible already. What’s going to happen next? We need to calm the situation down. But I’m being called out. “Oh, you didn’t do enough. You didn’t do this. You didn’t do that.” I’m sorry that you guys feel like I should have done more, but I did what I would want a friend to do for me at that moment. 

Internet sleuths noticed that you and Guerdy no longer follow each other on social media, and Guerdy later put it out there that she was blocked by you. Can you shed some light on this? Did you block her?

I feel like the speculation out there is, “Oh, I blocked Guerdy right after the reunion.” No, that’s a lie. I actually blocked her way before the reunion simply because I feel like on a TV show, it’s nine women, you see everything for 45 minutes, a lot of things got edited out. I feel like she and I were good. Then right when that edited third episode came out, I just saw a different side of her. I was getting all this backlash. We didn’t have any problem. We did not. I think she just saw how the show was edited and she decided to go with the fans and I was like, “Wow, OK.” Sometimes I need a break because I was getting a lot of craziness and I just didn’t want to deal with it at the time. I said, “You know what? Eff it. I just need to find my peace, get back to focusing on my children going back to school. And it is what it is.”

You and Julia were paired together in the After Show, and we know you and Guerdy are on the outs. Are you still close with Julia?

I was always close to everyone throughout the whole season. I’m always the one who’s like the middle child. A lot of the time, some of the girls, they’ve been mad at me for calling them out. I’m always the voice of reason who’s always getting along with everyone from Season 4 until now. Julia and I, we were never even that close. Julia and Guerdy were best friends, so my main thing with both of them was, “OK, now that I’m cool with both of them, they’re not talking. I’ll try to bring them together.” Of course, that backfired in the worst way possible. But it was coming from a good space to try to bring two best friends who were closer at one point to each other than myself. Me getting paired with Julia, I feel like it was just, “OK, well, everybody’s gonna pair with this person.” They could have paired me with anyone and I would have been OK with it, because I feel like at that moment I was fine with everybody. 

I want to talk about this cast trip. In last week’s episode, we saw you attempt to eat an oyster. Which was worse—the oyster or the crickets you tried on last year’s cast trip?

Let me tell you something. The crickets were dry, but at least around that time my throat was a little bit more wet because I was practicing a lot of … However, I have been celibate, so I haven’t really been taking action. My throat is a little dry at that point, if you know what I mean. Normally I would try a small oyster. I don’t know what kind of oysters Julia has been having — what kind of big things she’s been having going down her throat. Goddamn. That was huge. That was the first time I couldn’t really swallow something. It was so big, and I had to spit it out. 

It broke my heart to hear you open up about everything you were dealing with with your family back in Haiti. Why was it important for you to talk about that on the show? And have you heard from anyone in your family since that episode aired?

I feel like every single one of us goes through some stuff. I don’t like to dump my issues on someone, especially when you’re already going through your stuff. Now my drama is on you. So, I always try to keep it in. But I feel like when you guys saw me literally bawling my eyes out, the girls started to notice because normally they always see a bubbly Kiki, a fun Kiki. It was like, “Why is Kiki not being fun anymore? She’s not smiling. She’s not having fun.” Alexia noticed it and they asked me and I couldn’t lie because it was so much. It was tough to open up. Even though I didn’t want to, once you start talking, you just flow. It is what it is. At this moment right now, I just try to focus on myself. I’ve been focusing on myself, my kids, and my mother. I haven’t really been in touch with most of my family members back home, and it’s not that I’m ignoring them. It’s just that I need a break. 

Going from hearing you talk about your family’s situation to Lisa fighting with everyone over who she follows on social media was a hard pivot. What did you think of that becoming such a big argument so soon after you shared what you were going through?

These girls will fight over any dumb stuff when we have real world problems going on. But also, at that moment, I opened up to some of them. The rest still didn’t really know what was happening. It was a funny, silly fight. But at the end of the day, it means a lot to them. It was important to Larsa for Lisa to unfollow Marcus, but it was important for Lisa to feel like she could do it whenever she was ready, not because she’s being told to. I kind of understand both sides in that situation. It is what it is. I mean, I don’t agree with Lisa following Marcus. But also, I don’t know. It’s just dumb shit. We have so much going on in this world. It’s just dumb.

There were a lot of opinions about you flashing the room during the singing lesson in Spain. In the After Show, Larsa speculated that you do things like that for attention, while Guerdy called you out for calling her extra when you also have your extra moments. What’s your response to them?

This is another thing that’s misconstrued—me having that moment with Guerdy, telling her how the ladies felt, that they felt like she was a little bit extra. When I say extra, listen, we are all on a TV show because we are super extra. I’m the most extra person that I know. However, what I mean by extra [is that] it’s more like overbearing. It’s overbearing. That’s what I mean. I’m extra. Alexia’s extra. Larsa’s extra. Lisa’s extra. Adriana. Julia. All of us are. But we all understand that when it’s time for someone to talk, let them say what they have to say. You can give them five seconds, two minutes to listen to them. Shit, I am extra. I admit it. Listen, I’m probably one of the most extra ones on the cast. I flash my titties a lot, not for attention. I will literally go on the street and [flash my chest]. It’s just me. I’m always talking about sex. Anyone that knows me knows I’m always sexual. So, there’s nothing that I do on the show that I wouldn’t do [if you saw] me outside of the show.

You’re a free spirit!

Guess what? If they think I mention it all with my titties, once I get these bad boys done soon? Oooh, wee! Also, with the titty thing and the Flamenco, the lady was going around telling everybody to do something. The way I was dressed, it felt like it was too covered up. She went, like, “You! And [motioned me to open my shirt].” So I thought that’s what she meant. Should we rename me Little Ms. Extra? That’s the difference between me and some of these girls. If they call me something, I don’t call them, like, “Why did you call me extra?” No! But every single little thing for them is an issue. 

When they call me things, it’s OK. I’ll go through it. They think I’m extra? Maybe I am extra. I’ll make sure I will check myself. I’ll look into it. I talk to myself. If it’s something that I need to change, if it bothers people, I will literally do some deep thinking and figure it out. But that’s the difference between us, sweetie. When I get called something, I look into myself and I try to find out why it bothers people. It’s the same thing. If you are being called overbearing for not letting people talk—and if everyone is saying it—maybe you are the problem. 

In the midseason trailer, you tell someone, “You are too old to be talking to people like that.” A lot of fans have been placing bets on who you were talking to. What can you tease about that scene? 

You’ve got to wait. It’s something that was said to me from someone you wouldn’t expect to say it. The person said it, and everybody knows my mouth. I will say something in that moment, and then we’re over it. I don’t drag things out, but I will respond … I still love everybody, though.

You guys recently filmed the reunion, and I think a lot of people were surprised that Stephanie was first chair—not because she doesn’t deserve it, but because it’s rare for a rookie Housewife to nab that seat. What was everyone’s reaction to the seating arrangements on the day of filming?

To be honest with you, as far as I’m concerned, I feel like she deserved it. She came on. She went hard this season. She earned her spot. Her husband didn’t have to pay for it, guys. She earned her spot. Because remember, we’re on Episode 10 now. You haven’t seen what happened for the rest of the season. So she earned a spot. She stood her ground. She did what she had to do.

I know you can’t say much, but is there anything else you can tease about the reunion? 

Lots of bombs. I feel like I went in looking all beautiful, and I came out like I got electrocuted. I didn’t see that one coming. It was a lot. I think the reunion is actually a whole season for itself. 

One thing I love about RHOM is that the “friend of’s” are just as great as the full-time Housewives. Like I said before, I was really excited to see more of your personal life outside of the group this season. Do you think you’re inching closer and closer to nabbing that full-time role? Because I know a lot of fans would love to see that.

I know a lot of people are saying, “Oh, Kiki should be full time.” Everything happens in God’s divine timing. I came onto the show as a “friend of.” I am perfectly happy where God put me and it is what it is. I am excited, I’m having fun, and I’m just happy to have such an amazing group of friends. If I happen to be full time, great. If I don’t, I’m still happy. I’m just a happy human being.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

The Real Housewives of Miami airs Thursdays at 9 p.m. ET/PT on Bravo. New episodes are available to stream the next day on Peacock.