Woman Says Her Boyfriend Pretended to Have a Job for ‘Nearly a Year’

A woman is being warned to break up with her boyfriend after discovering that he lied to her about his employment status for “almost a year.”

The woman explained in a post on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——?” forum that her boyfriend “used to have a stable job,” and she “always thought he was working long hours.”

“I noticed he started texting me later in the mornings and his location was usually at home, not work,” she said. “When I asked him about it, he said he and his coworkers were working on a project and looking for financial sponsors, so I let it go.”

The Original Poster (OP) revealed that whenever she asked about the status of the alleged project, her boyfriend would say it was “almost starting” — and he eventually stopped sharing his location with her.

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She “finally confronted” him after “nearly a year” of this behavior — at which point she found out he didn’t actually have a job lined up.

“He got mad and said I can’t understand because I have a fixed-salary job, and his work as a tradesman is different,” she said, adding that they “ended up arguing.”

She continued, “I don’t actually care if he works right now because I can support myself, but I feel like he’s lying to me and hiding the truth.”

“AITA [am I the a——] for being upset and confronting him?” she asked at the end of her post.

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The majority of commenters told the OP that she was right to confront her partner — and said she should be highly concerned with his lack of transparency.

“NTA [not the a——]. He lied … to your face … for months. Why on earth are you still with someone who treats you that way?” one person asked.

“He didn’t come clean until confronted and then tried to make you the [a——] for expecting honesty?” the same person added. “Uh, no. You are NTA, but you will be to yourself if you stay with him.”

“It’s the lying that’s the real problem here. Losing a job happens, but hiding it for a year shows a serious lack of trust and respect in the relationship,” someone else said.

Another person commented, “Relationships need trust and communication, and hiding something this big erodes that. It’s reasonable to expect honesty, even if the truth is uncomfortable, and you had every right to confront him about it.”