Woman Is ‘Embarrassed’ by Her Friend Wearing Revealing Clothes on Their Vacation

A woman is uncomfortable with how her friend is choosing to dress on their shared vacation, and she’s wondering whether or not she should say something.

The woman detailed her experience in the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, where women can go to seek advice about interpersonal dilemmas.

In her post, titled, “I’m embarrassed by my friend’s weight,” the woman shared that she and her friend are both in their 30s and are currently traveling abroad together for a “needed” vacation. 

“The issue is my friend is really scantly dressed,” the woman confessed, before adding that her friend is overweight “by her own admission.”

“I’m not skinny myself,” the woman said, “So it’s not a jab.” However, she added, “I do think I dress for the figure I have, though. Nice summer dresses, midi dresses.”

She went on to say that while the friend dresses “lovely” in normal life, “on this holiday she’s wearing barely anything. The tiniest bikinis possible. Even her dresses are cropped so her butt is really out, [and her] belly is out, [too].”

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“She’s also quite a loud person in general and I can see people looking at us in the street,” she added.

The original poster added that while the friend frequently complains about her weight, she also “does not stop eating.”

“I really don’t know why it’s winding me up so much,” she said, while admitting that she feels “horrible” for thinking such thoughts.

“I think I just need to bite my tongue and get through the next four days,” she continued, adding, “Our friendship is normally fine, but we’re shopping-for-a-day, grab-a-meal or coffee type friends usually.”

The majority of commenters had mixed feelings about the woman’s thoughts on the situation.

“Fair enough being annoyed about inappropriate clothing and people looking at you because she’s being loud (although you must have known this before booking the holiday), but YABU [you are being unreasonable] about her weight and what she eats,” one person said.

“As long as you are dressed how you feel is appropriate, then how your friend dresses is not your concern,” another commenter added. “If she is comfortable, then it should not be a problem.”

Others had sympathy for her predicament — but still advised her to keep her feelings to herself.

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“It’s really hard to go on holiday with a friend. Everything they do starts to wind you up. If it wasn’t this it’d be something else that wound you up,” one person said. “Don’t say anything to her about it. You’ll regret it after the holiday,” another agreed.

Yet another user added: “It’s normal to have darker feelings like these about friends sometimes. The important thing is not to act on them, which it sounds like you aren’t.”