Bride Withholds Wedding Invite from Friend Who Didn’t Congratulate Her on Engagement

A bride-to-be is considering withholding a wedding invitation from a friend who didn’t congratulate her on her recent engagement.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, the bride-to-be asked users whether or not she should exclude her friend from her wedding guest list because they didn’t properly celebrate her engagement.

“Everyone personally congratulated us except this one friend who we truly thought would be excited and happy for us,” she wrote.

The bride explained that after her fiancé popped the question, nearly all of the couple’s friends and family members expressed their enthusiasm for their future marriage. The engagement news had been announced via a “surprise” digital wedding save-the-date, sent only to those the couple spends time with “often” and feels “supports” them.

One of the couple’s friends, however, didn’t reach out to congratulate them. Instead, they “just [sent] their contact info for the formal invite and details.”

Now, the bride believes her friend doesn’t deserve a “formal invitation” to her wedding.

“I told myself that if someone did not express anything towards this moment in our lives they shouldn’t be at the wedding,” the bride said. “Because why aren’t you excited or happy for your friends right? Especially to say zero words?”

Reddit users argued in the comments section that the bride was making the wrong decision. Many individuals said that the bride was “overreacting” and to “get over it,” with some even calling her “immature.”

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“This feels like main character syndrome tbh (to be honest). Maybe your friend was having a rough day, dealing with personal stuff, or just isn’t the type to gush over text. Some people show support differently — like actually showing up when it matters instead of posting heart emojis,” one of the top comments reads. “You’re about to nuke a friendship over… not enough enthusiasm? That’s wild.”

The poster defended themselves in more than a dozen responses to Redditors’ comments.

“I’m not hurt or forcing anyone to do anything, but I’m put in an awkward situation to reevaluate that maybe this friend isn’t seeing me as the same type of friend one would be excited for? I’m allowed to be like oh this is weird maybe we aren’t the same as I thought,” the bride wrote in part in one response.