Woman Says In-Laws Are ‘Still Not Comfortable’ with Her 3 Years into Marriage

A woman says that her in-laws “are still not comfortable” with her, even though she’s been married to their son for more than three years.

In a post shared to Reddit, she writes: “They don’t initiate conversations with me unless I reach out first. I’m an introvert by nature—I can open up when I feel positive vibes, but with them, especially my MIL, I never do.”

“Whenever we visit, she’ll ask everyone what they’d like to eat, especially her son, but never me. And if I happen to say no to something, she taunts me,” she writes. “On calls, it’s always me who has to dial. Despite her son calling her every single day, she expected me to call separately too. I’ve stopped because I’m tired of one-sided communication.”

When they do talk, the poster notes that “it’s rarely positive,” as her mother-in-law is constantly critiquing her.

“She either body-shames me, health-shames me, or compares me to herself and her daughter—saying I don’t know how to take care of the house, my health, or even her 36-year-old son,” she adds. “Once, she directly told me I’m an outsider and it’s my responsibility to keep in touch.”

Recently, the woman stopped calling her in-laws entirely, and is now feeling “cold, negative vibes” from them.

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“And honestly, I hate pretentious, one-sided relationships,” she writes, questioning if she is “overreacting” or if this is “genuinely unhealthy behavior from their side.”

Other Reddit users assured the woman that she is not in the wrong, with one user writing, “You’re not overreacting, she’s showing you exactly where you stand, and it’s not as family. Stop setting yourself on fire just to keep her warm. If your husband’s fine calling daily, that’s enough.”