Woman Questions Excluding Best Friend from Dinner Plans Due to Toddler

A grandmother has been left out of a friend group dinner.

A 48-year-old woman explained on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that she excluded her 50-year-old best friend from recent dinner plans because she didn’t want her to bring her 18-month-old grandchild.

“She absolutely loves her grandson, as she should,” the younger friend wrote. “She is the only one out of our friend group to have a grandchild. The problem is, she thinks she has to have him every free moment she has.”

“She includes him on our outings and tries to bring him to everything,” she continued, adding that the toddler “doesn’t have the best parents,” hence why the grandma enjoys taking care of him so often.

The younger friend then described how she invited a group of friends over for dinner, including the grandmother. 

“She replied back with, ‘I have the baby overnight.’ I ignored her comment and everyone else said they could come,” she recalled. 

“She then texted me and asked if we could have it at her house,” she added. “I told her it was a total pain to haul all the food to her place.”

The woman admitted that her house “is DEFINITELY not baby proof.”

Wondering if she’s in the wrong for not wanting to include her grandson-loving friend, she asked, “Am I the A—— for excluding my friend?”

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“Not the a——” one Reddit user replied. “If you think she’d listen, you could tell her that you are all done raising children, and if she is going to be doing so she needs to understand that she will be invited to less things.”