Woman Finds Out Her Best Friend’s Husband Secretly Went Through Her Phone

A woman was left feeling “heartbroken and betrayed” after discovering her best friend’s husband had gone through her phone.

On Reddit, the woman explained that she and her best friend, both 26, have been friends since they “were little.” Growing up in a small town meant they did nearly everything together.

“I was her maid of honour, and we even have a couple matching tattoos together,” she writes. “Essentially we’ve been through all the ups and downs of life together, she’s one of those people I always thought would be in my life forever.”

She noted that she was also friends with her pal’s husband before the two of them even got together, which is why “what happened completely shocked me and has left our friendship in pieces.”

Recently, the two women went on a long walk together, and the poster left her phone at her friend’s house, which is not uncommon.

“About halfway there, she got a call from her husband, I believe just checking in but also to say my phone’s alarm was going off,” she writes. “I told her I didn’t have any alarms set, but he asked for my passcode so he could turn it off. I didn’t give it much thought but it seems responsible, I gave it to her to pass along.”

When the two women returned hours later, she checked her phone and saw that “the alarm/clock app was still left open” in the background, so she just assumed he had gone into the device to turn off an alarm as expected.

However, she noticed that the phone “was left on a different page than where the alarm/clock app had been.”

“I also always swipe to my home page before locking my phone, I mean I have some weird OCD tendencies to ALWAYS do this!” she explains. “If I forget I will open my phone again and do it, I cannot emphasize this enough that I ALWAYS DO THIS! So it was weird that it was swiped two pages over.”

She also saw that she had missed a call from her boyfriend and several Snapchat notifications.

“When I asked her husband if that’s what he heard going off, he avoided eye contact and vaguely said, ‘I don’t know, it was just some alarm sound,'” she recalls.

When she went home, she talked to her roommates about what happened and why she “felt weird about it.” Her roommate then told her to look at her “Screen Time history, and that’s when things got really unsettling: according to Screen Time, during the hours I was gone, my phone showed about 15 minutes in Snapchat, 15 minutes in my Photos, 10 minutes in my Google Photos, and 5 minutes in my text messages. And only 15 seconds in the alarm/clock app.”

The woman was “stunned” and, after a bit more digging, realized it couldn’t have been a mistake and that someone “was actively in those apps” during the time she was gone.

The woman “immediately confronted” her best friend about the situation, and she spoke to her husband, who “came back with a bunch of inconsistent excuses.”

He insisted that he only opened apps to stop the “alarm” but “didn’t actually look at anything.” However, “his story kept changing,” and “nothing explained” why he would be in her photos app, “where there are no alarms or notifications.”

However, it was her friend’s response that “broke” her.

“When I pointed out the holes in his story and the Screen Time proof, she asked me, ‘Do you have proof he went through your photos? I just don’t understand why you’re so adamant that he’s lying,’ ” she writes.

“I’d shown her the evidence, and she still defended him,” she continues. “I can understand that they are married and she’s going to take her partners word but the proof I had was pretty solid, I can’t understand denying it.. maybe I can see having a united front and questioning it behind closed doors?”

Still, the poster can’t help but feel like her friend “completely ignored and dismissed [her] feelings” in an attempt to “brush this under the rug.”

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After talking things over with her boyfriend, who also “felt disrespected and violated,” the woman grew even more worried about why the husband had been looking through her photos.

Days later, her best friend tried to text her casually, sending memes as if “nothing had happened.”

“I asked for space and I haven’t spoken to either of them in three months,” she writes, noting that she recently got a new phone and a new phone number, so the friend “couldn’t contact me even if she wanted to.”

“Should I try reaching out? So she at least has my new number? Or should I cut my losses and move on?” she ends.