Woman Warned Her Marriage May Be Ending After Being Woken Up

A woman is at war with her husband after both losing sleep due to snoring.

Venting about the situation in a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that she and her husband got into a “small argument” after he deliberately woke her up by swearing “f— sake” for her snoring at 3:13 a.m. 

“He knows I struggle to get back to sleep if woken at that time,” she said, before revealing that they both have difficulty getting into comfortable sleeping positions. 

“He then falls back to sleep, facing away from me, but shortly rolls so that he is facing me (well, my back), and proceeds to snore into my ear for an hour, before I just call it quits and get up (at 4:20 a.m.) and get dressed,” she said. “Now sitting in the dining room, and I am fuming.”

The woman said it wasn’t the first time that her husband had disturbed her sleep, as just last week he woke her up several times. 

“He sometimes gets in from work at 11 p.m. and has a bottle of wine to unwind. He then gets into bed around 3 a.m., falls into a coma and snores loudly. But that’s ok? Seems like a huge double standard to me,” she said.

“He also has a form for drinking on his days off, falling asleep on the sofa with the TV on, and then I have to get up at say 1 a.m., to turn everything off, then I’m woken again when he rolls into bed at 5 a.m.,” she added.

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The woman said it was after 4 a.m. at the time she was writing the Mumsnet post. She complained about having a “long day ahead,” while not being able to sleep again until 9 p.m. because of work commitments.

The post quickly racked up hundreds of comments from people who could relate to her situation. Several commenters advised her to sleep in a separate room from her husband, while others warned that her rage was a sign that their marriage is on the rocks.

“To be honest, it sounds like the beginning of the end if you stay sleeping in the same room and resenting each other,” one person wrote. “At least in separate rooms, you both have a chance of a good night’s sleep.”

“Separate bedrooms, and eventually separate houses, are probably the best thing for you. I don’t think there’s much of a marriage to save,” another said. “Sleep studies for both of you for the snoring. Get yours done even if he won’t get one done. 

“You’ll sleep a lot better,” the same person continued. “He needs to reduce his alcohol dependence. In the short term clear off the spare bed and start using it.”

“It’s entirely reasonable to wake someone up if they’re snoring — albeit in a nicer way than he did — you can do the same for him,” a third commented. “But I agree separate beds are the way to go here, at least for some respite.”