Woman Says She Doesn’t Want Her Partner’s Sibling at Their Wedding

A bride-to-be is torn about inviting her fiancé’s siblings to their wedding as she’s convinced one of his sisters will ruin the atmosphere.

Asking for opinions on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman, who is an only child, explained that she and her fiancé are planning to get married next year after being together a “long time” and having already had two children.

She said they’ve chosen the “perfect” venue that holds around 20 people for a meal, but there are already eight people on the guest list from separated parents and their new partners. 

“Now DP [dear partner] has brought up his sibling…… I won’t lie, she comes with a lot of drama,” the woman said. “She doesn’t get on with both step-parents and it WILL be an atmosphere, unfortunately.”

“But with her, and her children, plus her new partner and potentially his two children (I have never met him or his children!) it would take up over a quarter of the guests and mean we cannot have a few of our really close friends,” she continued.

The bride-to-be explained that she rarely sees many of her friends and family because they live far away. Therefore, she would be “upset” not to be able to invite them in favor of inviting her fiancé’s sibling and her family. 

The woman said getting a larger venue to accommodate everyone would be a “huge” jump in price. 

“DP [dear partner] also has TWO other siblings, but they are very, very unlikely to come for other reasons,” she said. “Therefore, they wouldn’t be the only ones not coming.

“Would it be unreasonable to keep it parents only under the circumstances?” the bride-to-be asked. “It will definitely reduce stress and any drama.”

She added that without her partner’s siblings, they’ll have more time to spend with those they want to without having to deal with any politics.

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Responses to the post advised the bride-to-be to invite all of the siblings to avoid conflict, but not to let them bring their partners and children.

“I’d invite her OP [original poster]. Leaving out a sibling is a big deal IMO [in my opinion]. You don’t need to invite her partner or his kids, though,” one person commented.

“I think it does end dh [dear husband] and siblings relationship if you don’t invite siblings to your wedding. So if dh wants to invite, you should,” another wrote. “Ideally, she won’t come. If she does find a way to fit 4 more in without losing some of the friends. Definitely don’t invite her new partner’s children, that’s too much at a small wedding. The only reason to include them is to make it easier for her to come.”

Sharing an alternative opinion, a third person said, “You don’t need that kind of stress on your wedding day. If you think there will be drama, then invite parents & their partners only. Promise to do something for the wider family when you’re next in your home country.”