Woman Upset After Friends Bring Baby to Husband’s Birthday Events

A woman seeks advice from the Reddit community after admitting she told her friends they “kind of put a damper” on her husband’s birthday weekend by bringing their baby to events she warned were not kid-friendly. 

She explains in her post that the milestone was supposed to be a celebration for her husband, who had just turned 35, but instead it became centered around caring for a 1-year-old.

“We invited our two friends who have a 1-year-old daughter,” she writes, describing how the weekend was meant to be two days of festivities: a special dinner on Friday and an outdoor festival on Sunday. “When we invited them to both days we told them both things were not kid-friendly… We told them [we] understood if they couldn’t make it because of the baby.”

The Friday night dinner was carefully chosen for its unique setting, a small chef-driven restaurant where diners sit around the kitchen and watch meals being prepared. 

“The restaurant we chose was not kid-friendly, it’s super small and the main draw is the chef,” she explains, adding that she even sent her friends the restaurant’s website so they could see for themselves.

But when the couple arrived, they brought their daughter along anyway. “Friday night comes and they show up to the restaurant with their daughter,” she shares, noting that she had not included the baby in the reservation. Since there were no high chairs, the child had to sit in her mother’s lap the entire evening.

According to the poster, her friend became frustrated almost immediately. “She was annoyed about the baby sitting in her lap and not being able to enjoy her dinner, annoyed there was no kids menu, and was just in a bad mood the entire time,” she recalls. At one point, the baby cried so much that the mother had to take her outside, and the poster was even asked by the woman’s husband to check in on her.

The evening ended on a sour note. “They kind of left quickly when dinner was over and said we will see you Sunday,” she remembers. Despite the rocky start, she hoped the festival would go better.

However, Sunday brought more of the same issues. The couple arrived again with their daughter in tow, and tensions rose quickly. “They again are annoyed that it’s not stroller-friendly,” she says.

The festival was held outdoors in the woods, and while kids were technically allowed, it was meant to be an adult-focused experience. “Just the entire day was centered around taking care of their baby and it was not fun at all,” she explains. “At one point I had to hold the baby while she fed her.”

What made it more frustrating for her was that these friends had attended the same festival in past years without issue. “Once again they have come to this festival with us [in] previous years so they knew what it was all about,” she writes. With much of the day spent sitting under a tent and missing activities, the celebration did not feel complete.

After the weekend, her friend reached out to apologize. “She texted me yesterday saying she had fun over the weekend and she was sorry if the baby ruined everything,” the woman recalls. 

Wanting to be honest, she responded, “I told her it wasn’t ruined but it was a little frustrating because we warned them the activities weren’t baby-friendly and we missed out on a lot of things.”

That honesty didn’t sit well with her friend. “She got super defensive and said sorry they are parents now and have more important things to worry about,” the woman says. Since then, communication has stopped, leaving her to wonder if she made a mistake by speaking up.

Other Reddit users quickly weigh in on the situation, expressing disbelief at some of the details. One commenter reacts strongly to the husband’s behavior during the dinner, writing, “He had YOU go check in his wife and baby? I hope you didn’t go. Please tell me you didn’t go.”

The woman clarifies that she did not, but admits this isn’t the first time she’s seen the husband pass responsibilities onto others. “This is a pattern. I’ve been at BBQs with them where husband will ask every woman there to go help wife change the baby rather [than] do it himself,” she reveals.

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While her friend may have moved on from the weekend with few regrets, the poster is left feeling caught in the middle. She questions whether being honest about her frustration was worth the fallout, admitting that now “everything is super awkward.”