Man Accused of Being Rude After Answering Prenup Question Honestly

A man is in hot water with his girlfriend’s best friend. 

He explained on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that he was repeatedly asked to weigh in on the friend’s relationship and potential prenup with her partner — and when he did, the friend said his answer was “rude.”

“Every 2 to 3 weeks my girlfriend hosts a girls’ night at my place with her best friend when I go to run, get drinks and dinner with my run club,” the man wrote. “They are usually wrapping up when I come back. Me and her best friend never really clicked. We are civil and friendly.”

He then recalled them discussing the friend’s boyfriend during one of the gatherings. “She has been dating him for 1.5 years. The topic of marriage came up, and she said he wanted a prenup,” he remembered of that specific girls’ night encounter. “The best friend said, ‘It seems he is expecting it to fail.’ ”

That’s when they prodded the man to provide his opinion. “I declined,” he said. “[But] the best friend kept insisting even after I got back from the shower, and I said, ‘It’s easy for you to say that when the only asset you are bringing to your marriage is a 2014 CRV.’ ”

“The best friend went quiet and left soon after,” he continued. “She messaged my gf that I was rude, and gf says I could have been quiet.”

The man then detailed the other man’s financial achievements. “He is smart, got his Ph.D and is working for [a tech company] since 2017 or 2018,” the man explained, before providing more monetary context. “He is likely bringing millions into the marriage and is safeguarding it.”

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Wondering if he was rude, the man asked, “Am I the a—— for voicing my opinion honestly when I was repeatedly asked for it in my own apartment?”

One reader replied, “The friend pushed and didn’t like the answer, but that doesn’t make you wrong. A prenup isn’t about expecting failure, it’s about protecting what each person brings in. She asked, you answered.”

Meanwhile, another Redditor criticized the man’s approach, commenting, “You weren’t wrong about the logic, but the delivery was rough.” The person added, “If you knew it would sting, you could’ve just said, ‘Prenups protect both people,’ and left it there,. Being honest doesn’t mean you have to go for the jugular.”