Pregnant Woman Calls Husband an Idiot After He Says Her Symptoms ‘Ruin Everything’

A pregnant woman is asking if she’s in the wrong for calling out her husband after he dismissed one of her pregnancy symptoms.

The original poster (OP) shared her story on Reddit’s AITA and explained that she’s currently pregnant and has pregnancy rhinitis. The 25-year-old added that it “feels like I have a permanent head cold.”

She said her husband, 27, has been wanting to hang out with her and tried to get her to play video games. OP shared that she played the games but wasn’t very enthusiastic, and when her husband tried to talk to her, she was very congested.

“He got frustrated with me and he repeated that I’m allowing my pregnancy rhinitis to ruin everything,” said OP. “I called him an idiot and told him he can only criticize my attitude when he goes through pregnancy.”

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OP said her husband responded and called her a “big jerk” but she wants to know who is actually in the wrong.

In her comments, one person pointed out that the actual issue here is that OP’s husband isn’t prioritizing her well-being during her pregnancy.

“The rhinitis isn’t the issue here,” they wrote. “It’s that he still wants the spotlight when you’re literally growing a human. Parenting is about to show him real quick what ‘ruining everything’ looks like on no sleep. Hopefully he levels up before the baby arrives, otherwise yeah you’re raising two kids.”

Another wrote that OP’s husband is going to have a tough time dealing with having a baby if he can’t handle his own wife’s illness.

“If your husband can’t even cope with this, he’s going to lose his mind when a colicky baby is ‘ruining everything,'” they wrote.

A third person said that OP wasn’t at fault, but because the conversation resulted in name-calling, they should both take a step back.

“When an argument resorts to name calling though… time to take a step back for a bit and come back to the conversation later,” they said. “This is something you’ll need to work out because taking care of the baby while it’s inside is much easier than when it’s out. Your entire world shifts massively.”

“Feeling enthusiasm for your usual activities and way of life BB (before baby) will change significantly AB (after birth) and as a couple you’ll need to develop a new normal,” they said. “My kids’ father never did understand that or wasn’t willing to grow as a person. He stayed very self-centered and selfish. His relationship with his kids now? Not very deep or solid.”