Woman Says Mother in Law Became Unbearable ‘As Soon as I Got Pregnant’

A woman says her mother-in-law has become “unbearable” since she got pregnant with her first child — and the situation isn’t getting any better.

In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that she is now a new mom who has been with her husband for a few years.

“When we first got together, his mom and I had a good relationship, even met for coffee a few times alone and used to text. Looking back, she was almost too nice and it seems fake if that makes sense,” she writes. “I’m not 100% sure what happened, but as soon as I got pregnant something switched.”

That’s when, she writes, her mother-in-law told her husband “she felt like she was bothering me” and “stopped making any effort.”

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“She used the excuse that it took me a few hours to text her back during pregnancy so she never texted me again,” she writes, adding: “I have a feeling she got upset she didn’t get her way during my pregnancy. She demanded to be in the delivery room and wanted to attend doctors appointments, but when I said no she seemed upset by that.”

After the baby arrived, her mother-in-law has “been awful to be around and seems to be trying to assert her dominance and downplay my role as a mom.”

“She invites herself over to our home 1-2 times a week and while she’s here, makes nasty comments that seem to fly over my husband’s head. She just has awful energy and I feel sick after these visits, but I don’t trust her without me around due to her not respecting boundaries,” she adds.

She writes that she doesn’t feel comfortable letting her husband bring the baby to his mom’s home or leaving the house while she’s here.

From the post: “I asked them not to kiss the baby and she completely ignored that boundary. She’s also made so many weird comments to me. Just to give an idea, she’s commented on my weight/looks during pregnancy, told me she’s surprised I’m doing such a good job as a mom because I’m not as mature as my husband (on my first Mother’s Day!), gives unsolicited advice … One month postpartum, she told me I need to start cooking and came over to give me a ‘cooking lesson.’ ”

“It feels like she has no regard for me or even wants a relationship with me anymore, she’s just trying to have a do over baby,” she adds.

She writes that she has “had many discussions” with her husband about his mother and “have even told him I see divorce in our future if I have to keep dealing with his mom’s behavior without him defending me.”

“My husband has confronted his mom several times, but she cries crocodile tears and guilt trips him. We’re considering moving about an hour away, which would lessen her visits, but I just feel so angry at how I’ve been treated postpartum and her lack of respect [for] me as a mom,” she writes, adding that the visits from the woman “are brutal,” even though she only drops by when her son is there.

In comments, other Reddit users are urging the woman not to back down. Writes one: “I would never wait for my husband to grow a backbone in order to stand up for myself. I get that it’s his mom, but this is your child and your home. Just call her a– out… And tell her to leave if she kicks off! You’ve let things build up and let her behavior escalate. You can’t keep letting things go.”