Woman Refuses to Take New Husband’s Last Name After What He Said During Fight
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NEED TO KNOW
- On Reddit, a woman shared that she and her husband have been married for around six months
- She has yet to change her last name, mainly due to “work stuff”
- However, her husband brought it up during a recent fight, leading her to question everything
A 26-year-old woman turned to the internet for support after getting into a fight with her husband over her last name.
In a recent Reddit post, the woman explained that she and her 27-year-old husband have been married for around six months, but she hasn’t legally changed her last name yet, “mostly because of work stuff.”
“Last week we had a fight about bills, and in the heat of it he said, ‘Maybe if you actually took my name, you’d take this marriage more seriously,'” she writes.
The woman was “stunned” and gave him a chance to clarify what he meant.
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“I asked him what that meant, and he said, ‘It’s just tradition, and you’re dragging your feet because you don’t respect me,'” she recalls.
The heated argument led the woman to question whether she even wants to change her last name.
“Since then, I’ve decided I don’t want to change my name at all, not after he made it a test of loyalty,” the woman shares. She noted that her husband is “furious” and told her she was “being petty and overreacting to one bad argument.”
“But honestly, it shook me that he equates my identity with respect for him,” she adds.
The woman now asks Reddit if she was “overreacting” for “making this line in the sand” or justified in her feelings.
People in the comments section assured the woman that she is not overreacting, suggesting her husband was the one not showing her respect.
“The only person not showing respect in your scenario is your husband. He doesn’t own you and you don’t need to change your identity to show him respect. I honestly think this is a red flag,” one commenter replied. “Do not change your name unless you want to. It’s a pain, it’s expensive to change licenses and passports etc and it adds no value to your marriage. You should only do it if/when you want to.”
“Changing your name is a pain, especially when you need to change it back post-divorce. Tell him he’s welcome to take your name or he can get used to you having separate ones,” another user wrote bluntly.
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