Woman Is Shocked Brother-in-Law’s Girlfriend Won’t Help Him Financially

A woman is outraged that her brother-in-law is having to rely on his mom for money despite his girlfriend earning six figures.

On Monday, Sept. 1, the woman explained in a post on the UK-based forum Mumsnet that her brother-in-law has his own business that does relatively well. However, during periods where invoices are waiting to be paid, he “makes noise” about needing his mom to temporarily help him financially. 

She said her brother-in-law has been with his girlfriend, who earns six figures, for two years. The pair has cut back on their spending as he’s currently short of money, while his girlfriend is saving “several thousands” each month.

“Over a few glasses of wine on the weekend, I asked why she wasn’t helping her partner out and instead expected MIL [mother-in-law] to step in,” the woman said of her brother-in-law’s girlfriend. “She said that he can have access to whatever money he wants if they get married.”

The woman said her brother-in-law’s girlfriend won’t even give him a loan until they tie the knot.

“I asked if she would actually marry him and she said she’d marry him tomorrow if he asked, but he doesn’t want to get married,” the woman continued. “So this is where I am struggling — I don’t think my MIL, you have to support him rather than his partner. 

“She enjoys a nice lifestyle with him normally, and it seems bloody-minded to go without because he is going through a tough few months,” she concluded. “Equally, she shouldn’t have to support someone if she doesn’t want to.”

Responses to the post left the woman shocked, as many argued it was fair for the girlfriend not to give her brother-in-law money if she didn’t want to.

“I can’t believe you dared to ask her. It’s none of your business and she was within her rights to tell you to get lost,” one person wrote. “They are not married, and she is smart not to bankroll him. She would be even smarter to refuse to marry him until he is solvent.”

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“I think she is right, good for her sticking to her guns,” another commented. ”He won’t put a ring on it, so it’s all her money. If they broke up, what’s the chance of her getting her money back? I would say very slim. Wish more women had the sense of this lady.”

“She’s damn right! In her situation, I’d be telling my partner to get a second job rather than running to mummy,” someone else chimed in.

“No one has to support your BIL. If his business isn’t going well, he needs to either take out a loan to cover it or give it up,” another added. “She is being sensible by keeping their money and assets separate until/unless they marry. If he doesn’t want to marry her then he doesn’t get to indulge in the security that marriage brings.”