In-Laws ‘Flipped’ Over Parents’ Decision for Baby’s Last Name

A woman says she and her in-laws are split on a baby name — because she wants it to include her own last name.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous 23-year-old writes that she and her husband are expecting a baby due in early 2026.

“For some background, my husband comes from a culture where it is accustomed for individuals to only carry the husband’s last name. In mine, we have both the last names of our parents,” she writes. “To the issue at hand — I’ve had numerous conversations with my husband where I explained to him that I want my last name to be first for our baby for a number of personal reasons. My husband is fully on board — his family isn’t.”

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She adds that her in-laws live with her and her husband in a house that she owns: “My in laws, whom we live with (long story) have asked us to reveal the name of our baby to them. We have refused time and time again, however my husband and I got so tired of this being an everyday pester to the point where we just told them.”

But when they told the in-laws that the baby’s last name would list the woman’s last name first, with her husband’s hyphenated after, “they flipped.”

“They began to berate us, more specifically me, about how I could possibly think they’d accept this,” she writes. “They went on and on about how I was ending their (husband’s last name) lineage. It never occurred to me that this would be a legitimate problem, being this is something between my husband and I.”

Other Reddit users are weighing in, with many arguing that it isn’t up to the in-laws to name the child.

Writes one commenter: “It isn’t their baby. If you and your husband have agreed on the name, the in-laws can go pound sand. The trick is keeping your husband from being swayed to support them.”