Girls’ Trip Devolves into ‘Chaos’ After Lack of Planning

A woman says a recent girls’ trip wound up being a disaster after her friend, who planned the tri,p failed to organize it well.

In a post shared on Reddit‘s “Am I the A——” forum, the anonymous 33-year-old shares that she and several friends flew across the country to Seattle to celebrate her friend Sarah’s birthday. “She lives in Tacoma but rented an Airbnb in downtown Seattle,” the woman writes. “Her only dinner reservation for the weekend was in Bellevue — a completely different city — so from the start, nothing about the logistics made sense.”

While Sarah had three months to plan, the woman writes that when the rest of the group arrived, she had overslept and “had nothing ready.” As she recaps, “That set the tone for the whole trip.”

“The ‘lemon drop rooftop party’ she envisioned had no lemons, no food, no decorations, not even a speaker,” she continues. “We spent all of Friday and Saturday running errands for basics she could have prepped weeks before. At one point, I even had to drive 45 minutes to her house to grab alcohol she left behind.”

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The woman then reveals that “the chaos kept snowballing. On Saturday, she booked a makeup appointment for 5 PM. We decided to take the ferry into the city around 3 PM, using her car. The ferry ran late, so she ended up Ubering back to the house (a $10 ride) to make her appointment while we were gone from 3–7 PM.”

“She also didn’t secure or collect money for a $750 boat day until just days before the trip. When two people didn’t show up, she had to cover their cost and was furious. I had already paid my share in advance, but honestly, everything should have been planned, booked, and paid for well before we even arrived — not thrown together the week of,” she adds.

On top of it all, plans for a brunch cruise were ultimately scrapped when Sarah “never followed up with the other girls in the group chat to confirm their spots or make sure it actually got reserved.”

“It ended up selling out, which again came down to her lack of follow-through and communication,” she adds.

By Saturday afternoon, Sarah “was hungover, napping, and refusing to take pictures. At that point, I finally called her out. She told me she didn’t owe us anything, and I told her that yes — she absolutely did. She owed us a good time and a positive attitude after we all traveled across the country for her.”

Now Sarah is arguing the women can no longer travel together because the others “can’t go with the flow.”

“But to me, there’s a difference between a small hiccup and a complete lack of planning. Fun doesn’t magically happen — it takes effort and coordination. I’m not asking for perfection, just the bare minimum effort when people spend money, vacation days, and fly across the country for you,” she writes in the post.