Woman Says Her Friend Keeps Messaging Her Boyfriend Every Day

A woman is becoming suspicious of her friend after discovering that she has been sending messages to her boyfriend every day.

Sharing her concerns on the community forum Mumsnet, the woman said she and her friend joined an online group around nine months ago and despite being “spread all over the country,” they sometimes meet in person. Having become “very close” to one man in particular, the woman began a long-distance relationship with him around three months ago.

She said her boyfriend has mentioned on several different occasions that he’s received messages from her friend. The woman confessed that she didn’t pay much attention to it until he revealed that the friend had asked if they could “vent” about her to him.

“BF [boyfriend] shut this down and sent me a screenshot, asking what had happened,” the woman recalled. “I felt like this was pretty unpleasant and I told friend that, but she dismissed it, saying her intention was for my BF to ‘mediate’ the disagreement.”

The woman said her friend has since messaged her boyfriend “every single day” for the past three weeks. 

“They aren’t long conversations and there’s nothing overtly worrying, but she messages him good morning most days, makes small talk and asks lots of questions about the hobby,” the woman said of her friend. “BF is friendly and helpful, but 90% of the conversation is driven by her.

“Half of me doesn’t feel like I’m justified in being annoyed, as there’s nothing actually wrong with their messages, but I just feel really off about it,” she continued. “A few times she has asked him to send a photo as he doesn’t have a profile picture up on the forum, which really p—– me off (he didn’t send it). But she said it was just curiosity and it was normal to want to know what her friends BF was like.”

The woman said she’s “not worried” about how her boyfriend may respond to the attention, while adding that she thinks her friend’s behavior is “disrespectful.

Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE’s free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.

Due to the relationship being long-distance and work commitments, she admitted to being frustrated that sometimes her friend gets to talk to her boyfriend more than she does.

The woman was curious to learn other people’s opinions on the situation.

“If I’m told I’m unreasonable, I shall try and pull up my big girl pants and be an adult about all of it!” she said. “I’m probably feeling a little sensitive today as I won’t see BF for another 5 weeks due to work/family stuff and I’m already missing him a bit.”

The post racked up hundreds of comments from people advising the woman to trust her instinct if she’s feeling uncomfortable with her friend’s actions.

“Who goes to a friend’s BF to vent about them?” one person wrote. “Has she no other friends? Is she expecting to turn him against you? What do you think the motivation was? She’s not a friend, and your BF should stop engaging with her.”

Another person chimed in, “This woman is not your friend. She is trying to make your boyfriend her boyfriend.”

“She isn’t your friend and he is showing you the texts so you can get all jealous over him and boost his ego,” a third said. “He would have blocked her ages ago if he didn’t like the attention she was giving him but he has let her carry on. Both are not worth your time and energy.”