Man Breaks Up with Girlfriend Due to the ‘Shocking’ State of Her Apartment

A man turned to the internet to see if he acted too brashly when breaking up with his girlfriend over the state of her apartment.

In a post on Reddit, the man explains that he and his “gorgeous” girlfriend had been dating for a few months after meeting through friends.

Last weekend, his girlfriend invited him to her place for the first time. The woman mentioned that her apartment was a “mess,” but the man laughed it off, thinking she was being “self-deprecating.” 

“I want to start off by saying I know that people have their reasons for stuff like this and I don’t want to be disrespectful in any way,” he starts. “But the state of her apartment was genuinely shocking when I first went in.”

“It was a pretty small place, and I’m not just talking about clutter. Literal piles of trash on the floor, a sink full of dishes overflowing onto the counter, stains on the couch and carpet, week-old food on the table, and just piles and piles of stuff everywhere,” he adds. “Not to mention the overpowering smell of mold and mildew that I could taste in my mouth.”

His girlfriend, however, acted like everything “was completely normal,” and they watched a movie on the couch before it got too late. While he “tried not to act weird,” he admitted that she likely “noticed’ something was off.

“The next day, I called her and told her I didn’t think things were gonna be compatible between us, and she got mad at me for leading her on and breaking up with her for no reason. I didn’t mention the apartment, but maybe I should have,” the man shares. “I feel bad for her, and I’m worried I might have acted too quickly.”

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While people in the comments section agreed he had every right to end things, they said he should have been honest about the reason for the breakup.

“But I do think you should’ve mentioned the apartment. People who don’t know what the problem is cannot take any corrective action. Tell her and move on,” one person wrote. 

“Compatibility isn’t just about chemistry, it’s also about hygiene. If I have to dodge pizza boxes like landmines just to sit down, that’s not ‘quirky,’ that’s a health hazard,” another added. “You didn’t ghost her, you bowed out respectfully. That’s not being shallow, that’s self-preservation.”